YOU together with TIME can heal

Has Atif's melancholic "drones"..."Kat ta nahin ab akele tanha safar"... struck empathetic notes with your "broken heart".Has the going away of your partner turned your life into a bland pedestrian affair.Don't you lose a lot of daylight sitting at quiet corners reminiscing the sights ,the sounds ,the touch,the ecstasy,the games of passion ,in a nutshell those moments of togetherness.Soon you think enough is enough and you wish ,normalcy be restored.
For most stimulus there is a response and this one certainly cannot be discounted,so you are like "desperate times call for desperate actions" , "come hell or high water i will get him/her" only to be snared into more delusions .Soon enough you aggravate your situation,and a time comes when you turn into a ticking time bomb,susceptible to self inflictions.Sounds scary right ,yes and why not as these are intrinsically connected to that part of human perceptions that elude most of us. In this part of the web world i am going to dwell on the "rules of thumb" that might help you "reverse the breakup and get back together"
The first and foremost mantra would be not to beg for attention ,this would only demean yourself in his/her eyes,goes without saying that you would have to avoid one on one contacts.By this you ensure that she/he gets his/her time and space with himself/herself or with some one he/she has in mind.Make him/her miss you and finally long for you.Avoid calling,texting her at any cost.Making him/her wonder what you are up to, can only enhance your value.
Secondly,don't sit quietly quailing and grieving,go out with your friends and start putting your life back on track.This can only have positive implications as your ex will think you are moving on with your life.Be yourself,the same jovial person you were before the one he/she feel in love with.
Thirdly, indulge in yourself at this time to knowing yourself better,may be this could come as a blessing in disguise as all through the relationship you may have seen yourself through her eyes,with your personal perceptions mired with his/hers.
Fourthly,you need to go the extra mile with your own method to madness.You may have been enfeebled by the breakup,but still you need to sack up and endeavour to better yourself,whatever it takes and start punching above your weight.The upshots could be most favourable as now your ex will see in you a dearer person than the one he/she forsook. Show him/her the catch she lost.Most often break up are caused due to loss of attraction and an overkill on the faults of your partner.It always helps to get into sleek,clean shape working out regularly or paying the parlour a visit an occasional .Study shows that breakups seldom occur between happy cheerful couples,thus its of utmost importance to put up a happy yourself all the time.
Fifthly,it also helps if you get noticed by him/her with other he/she s.This will clearly put the point across to her that you have move on and its OK to date again,and she isn't the only one made for you.
Sixthly,after giving the separation enough time,try to get to a face to face casual chit chat.Don't wear your head on you sleeve,avoid getting clingy,or doing the postmortem by getting into the nitty-gritty of your your past together.Talk about general light topics,without much indulgence ,for at this moment your treading on thin ice your , any slip could come as a slap in the face of your reversal campaign. Throw her the occasional bone,don't pick them with her. Try to present a smiling face being all tongue and cheek.Be a good listener and be understanding.Postpone your analysis until his/her talk ends ,yet maintain your self dignity all through without ever giving him/her even a shadow of thought that he/she wasn't ever important to you.
The last one would be to ,be whippy. Try to chip in with some episodic compromises,don't grudgingly stand in your side of the fence refusing to budge at any time.
My "thumb rules" may sound rude to many,but i that's the most practical i can churn out.Do use your discretion if at all your willing to put them to test,for as of now they only in theory.